“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right” almost reads like a tongue twister but is a quote coined by Henry Ford, the great American Industrialist and founder of the Ford Motor Company.
The mind is truly a battlefield; for it is there that the war between defeat and victory is first waged and the victor determined. The beliefs we hold in our minds regarding anything determine whether something is possible to and for us or not. Everything is possible to him that believes nothing is impossible and nothing is possible to him that believes everything is impossible.
James Allen himself said, “As a man thinketh, so is he!”
When it comes to accomplishing goals and dreams or achieving success or encountering failure, the following two factors are mainly responsible for our defeats or victories.
Self-Talk – The internal dialogue you have with yourself
What do you tell yourself?
Do you tell yourself that you capable of and can do anything you put your mind to or do you predict your own failures, point out your shortcomings and discount yourself because you don’t think you have what it takes to make things happen?
What words do you use to describe yourself?
Do you habitually use positive adjectives that make you feel empowered and good or are you responsible for your pessimistic attitude because of dis-empowering words such as stupid, inept, inadequate and so on that you use to describe yourself?
Are you your biggest fan or worst critic?
We often hold others in higher esteem than we do ourselves and have an easier time seeing others’ potential but our own. How can you expect others to cheer you on if you aren’t your own cheerleader or expect others to believe in you, if you don’t believe in yourself?
What negative limiting beliefs have you come to believe and keep repeating to yourself?
“I don’t have what it takes”, “ I am not smart enough”, “ I am not qualified enough”, “ I don’t have enough money” and other such limiting beliefs will often discourage you from undertaking challenges or stop you dead in the tracks every time you face obstacles.
Are the words, “I can’t”, “I am not” part of your daily vocabulary?
If so, you need to replace them with “I can” and “I am”; doing so will not only help you change your mind set about yourself but will also give you the courage to pursue and grasp opportunities and propel you to take whatever action you need to take to make things happen.
Self – Image – How you see yourself
Do you believe in yourself and your abilities?
Confidence and self-assuredness are essential if we are to accomplish anything. People who believe in themselves definitely have an easier time making things happen and getting others to believe in and trust them and their callings. On the other spectrum, those that don’t believe in themselves have a difficult time embracing challenges and opportunities and often don’t allow themselves to set goals or dream big because they don’t believe in their ability to achieve them.
Do you think you are worthy of your dreams?
Low self-esteem and insecurities are two of the greatest thieves and reasons people allow themselves to settle for mediocrity and less then they deserve. People who don’t see themselves as worthy of good and great things often don’t chase after them because they don’t see themselves as deserving and often accept the shorter end of the stick since that is what they feel they can relate to more.
Do you compare yourself to others and feel like you don’t measure up?
The only person you should ever compete against is yourself. There will always be someone smarter than you, more educated then you and more qualified than you. It is futile to think that we can all be the same. We have different personalities, abilities and gifts; discovering yours and pursuing a purpose that best suits you will go a long way in helping you achieve fulfillment, self-actualization and success in life. We all have something to contribute, don’t minimize what you have to offer.
Do you see yourself through the eyes of others?
We sometimes allow how others view us to influence how we see ourselves and allow others to project their insecurities and limitations on us. Per, Eleanor Roosevelt, no one can make you feel inferior about yourself without your consent. No one has the power to create or determine your destiny but yourself. Don’t allow the negative words people speak on you to influence you or your decisions. Prove those who don’t believe in you wrong by doing the very things they say you can’t do and becoming the person they tell you, you aren’t capable of becoming.
We all have it in us to create the lives we desire for ourselves and can do so with the right attitude and mindset. Whether we think can or think we can’t, really lies with us and determines whether we will or won’t.